By FASD_Mum and SuperT
We have been given advice by a professional to help give our son more ownership over decisions on how to regulate himself and how to get through the day. We have chosen to use emojis as a prop for this. We are using them to help him identify his feelings, and then to agree to things he can do when he is feeling a certain way.
Today, we worked on how to go from angry to happy. We made a video. We sat together and discussed the many emojis on his new duvet cover and his new pillows.
Then we talked about the two he called “Most Angry” and “Angry” and what he could do to get back to happy when he feels this way. This way, he has some initial buy-in when things start to get challenging. This is not to say the process of getting from angry to happy is immediate – far from it. But we are able to show we are on the same side in those moments sliding into dysregulation.
Tonight, as things started to fly I was able to say, “I see you are angry. Remember we have a plan? Remember our list? What’s first on the list….” Within 10 minutes I was able to walk him upstairs and into his calm spot, where he then re-watched his video above.
Things calmed down. It was a win.
It’s not perfect. We’re rookies. But it’s a start.